There are some years that fade into the jungle of memories – When was it we went there? Did that? What year was it when … ?
2013 is not one of those years. 2013 has kicked my butt. It will not easily be forgotten.
2013 is the year we bought a house that I love more than a girl probably should love four walls and a roof. It’s the year we “camped out” during a remodel and created priceless memories as (sometimes up to 12 people) hopscotched over skil-saws and lumber and drywall to find our way to the one operating bathroom. The year that showed me what grace looks like in the form of an amazing construction crew.
2013 is the year my niece came into this world right before my eyes. It’s the year I learned the art of self-injections and heard the surprise in our fertility Dr’s voice when we lost another hand of “poker” despite amazing cards.
2013 is the year my husband’s job loss opened up some deep ugly inside of me. It’s the year I scrambled and clawed to grab onto just one more dollar and collapsed into bed each night hating myself for it. The year my husband has never worked harder, and never worked truer.
2013 is the year I actually got paid a few pennies to write and speak and each time felt like I was getting away with something.
2013 is the year five sets of beautiful friends moved far away.
2013 is the year that life changed oh so much.
So this year, maybe more than most, the idea of a New Year is tangible.
There’s a question that started burning in 2013, and it’s illuminating my way into 2014. It’s this: Who is the truest version of myself? When I’m stressed, is it about things that the truest me really cares about? When I am successful, is it in things that the truest me really wants to succeed at? I’m convinced that too many of us live with only hints of our truest selves.
So what I’m looking forward to most as we turn the page to 2014 is a True Year. I want 2014 to be the truest year yet. The year of making decisions that give life to the made-to-be-me-me, even when that may be surprising.
So instead of new year resolutions, I’m making some true year resolutions. Because I don’t need to be newer, I need to be truer. And I’m only choosing five, because anything else is just absurd and I won’t do it.
1) Stretching ignored muscles. Not just my physical ones, though that’s where I will start. And not just for the jean size, though that will be a welcomed benefit. But because as my lungs expand I’m convinced that my perspective will too. Truer, not newer.
2) Spiritual food. My true self can’t live on bread alone, but this year I’ve kinda tried. I need some spiritual filet mignon. Truer, not newer.
3) Adventuring in story – mine and others. For me, this means picking up neglected projects. Not only accepting opportunities write and speak but even pursuing them (yikes!). Creating space to tell story and create story and live with a view towards adventure, knowing adventure often requires more bravery, and that my true self knows how to be brave, even though sometimes she forgets. Truer, not newer.
4) Telling the dollar no. This is a tough one. But the almighty dollar is not the boss of me. Truer, not newer.
5) Savoring. Rich doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel when I think of the people that fill our lives, whether from near or far, and 2013 allowed me to celebrate them and their truest selves. I want even more of that in 2014. Truer, not newer.
So those are my true year resolutions. I’d love to hear some of yours.
Happy True Year, friends. #truestself